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Question : Any feedback/advice on lack of equality and noncompliance re: mediation agreement?
I’m posting my problem looking for hope, knowledge and advice I guess. I went thru mediation Oct. 5 after 10 months of hell. I took daily abuse emotionally, psychologically and several times physically. I lived with no money, had terrible lies told about me, was repeatedly accused of being a theif, and as I have never taken anything from anyone was one of the worst things that happened. It made me feel terrible about myself that people would believe that of me. Tried to run a business where employees were told not to listen to me and take his side or lose their job and was choked twice, leaving huge bruises and told he was going to kill me.
Ours was a 30 yr. extremely verbal and psychologically abusive marriage. We signed an interim agreement in June due to the abuse I underwent at our co-owned business where he was not to enter my office but he lived up to none of it, not only verbally abusing me daily, refusing to leave my office but three times changing the locks after large sums of money were missing from the safe, which he had to have taken, then set up to make it look as though I had and attacking me once making me call police out of fear but as he only put his fist in my face and didnt make contact when I moved he was only made to temporarily leave. Finally the last month taking the daily income and putting it either in a personal account he opened in his name or in his pocket leaving me no money for essentials such as groceries, gas or utilities. He had already ordered the secretary (who I found later he promised $ 10,000 if she would lie about my mental capacity should this go to trial and was keeping a second set of books for him, hidden in the ceiling tiles)not to pay any of my expenses including the house mortgage, which now is in foreclosure and I was forced to rent two rooms out in my house to keep the electric on for my daughter and I while she paid everything for 2 residences he used. She prepared all of his divorce work and attended all meetings with his attorney on company time. Per his attorney, if I got money, which was usually no more than $ 300 a month he was to get a matching check, which the secretary did but he also took large amounts of money, unknown to me, where no matching check was ever issued to me.
After 9 hours of mediation without break, even for lunch, or him giving an inch I gave up. The thought of returning to the abuse and lack of money was too much. He knew my mental state of exhaustion from installing evesdropping and computer monitoring on my office computer and phone which he, his GM and secretary all had access to but was kept secret from me and I believe at my home and knew he could wear me down as well as any stratagy my attorney had and what I wanted as he recorded all our conversations and read the emails between us. He printed personal emails and distributed them, telling me I had left my email open on the office computer, which I knew not to be true.The next step would be trial and he had all the money and I couldnt pay my attorney. He walked away with over 2.6 M while I got less than 1 M, which included the business, I could possibly lose due to the house foreclosure or if the bank calls in the business loans as I am always late, barely able to make them after paying on his past bills. He received 30 properties, all but 4 paid for with rents coming in, 2 which are commercial that he said were unrented I have found are with large rents being paid. Two days following mediation he signed a short sale with no responsability for any dificiency on a 2M loan he had taken as his liability, which had to have already been negotiated and I found online a release of another $ 105,000 loan he took as a liability.
He was ordered to bring all bills current and return the money and accounting of what he took. He falsified the accounting, returning only $ 738.00 and paid no bills, including my home.. He had removed all business licenses and building violations cited for and unfixed which he hid from me, gotten extentions on all utilites which were ready to be shut off and didn’t leave payroll money or return the tax money withheld for the prior month from employees or sales tax. They are all looking at me for the money as I am now full owner and was 50 percent then, even though I was allowed no access to the records and didnt recieve any money. Now I scramble monthy to make the necessary payments to keep the doors open until I can get him to court for contempt.He had already taken all my jewelry, selling it or giving to his girlfriend. He continues to harrass and sabotage my business as if the mortgage isn’t paid he as comortgagee can walk in, make the payments and take it over, leaving me with no home, no income, nothing, which I believe was/is his plan.
. He ruined my credit when he stopped paying the house mortgage so a loan until I get him to court isn’t possible. He uses his former GM and his son to harrass me, posting about my mental stability on my spac
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Answer by olderbutwiser
Hire a lawyer, and start divorce proceedings. You deserve a better life than what you have!