Archive for December, 2010

I often hear from dissatisfied customers tell me, “Help, my elderly parents are so persistent, and they make me mad!” I understand the frustration that I was there too. My elderly mother has become more and more forgetful as they age. She forgets to eat and drink. She was too weak to run for his life and played solitaire, television and wait and hope that someone to call or stop by to visit him. The problem was, she had to say never, because she had become so isolated from the world. She refused to move to a higher unity and expecting me to short notice – even if I lived hours and had a family and full-time job. I was so worried about him and the frustration. So I received. I really do. I understand what it is, can a parent be a parent. I went through. I help my clients get through and you can get through it. Here are some ideas that could help you as a parent, your parents feel a little better
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It must first understand it’s important that the primary knows a lot of losses in your life, sometimes on a daily basis. It does not matter whether they like it or not, the need to move to a safer place to believe. It still hurts, and our patience is necessary. They are more likely to lose most of their independence on a daily basis. They have suffered the physical and spiritual loss and sad, confused and likely to annoy a bit. You may have lost their love life partner. Seniors often say “no” just because they can, as is the last bastion of independence. If they move, they have memories, familiar surroundings, neighbors and friends behind. You do not know how to make friends and are not particularly interested in making the effort to do it again.

If you are the adult child of a senior, you feel too much is lost! Their role was reversed, and it feels uncomfortable and overwhelming. Remember when they were young. You hate to see them lose their independence. If they have to move, do not miss is the old family home! You may also want things to stay the same. You feel guilty that you can not keep them in their homeland. You feel guilty that they do not live with you. You feel guilty because you have to take so much time away from your own family and work. You feel guilty that you feel angry when they pressure you. They feel guilty about feeling guilty!

Wow, that’s a lot of anger, sadness and guilt about everything!

Relax, trust and know that the adults’ parents to your parents that no matter what you feel, what you love, attention, patience and care you received as a child, back to the starting point for them. What a privilege. What a gift. Even if they do not like it, help move forward and live a safer and happier. Just to know that. Living alone is not funny. Living alone is boring. Living alone, if an elderly person can be dangerous.

Sometimes, your old parents will absolutely refuse to move under any circumstances. In this case, their solutions. One can not be with them all the time. you can are not left alone. Then they ask what that might be the solution? system with the problem of encouraging them to let go and let you decide for them face to solve. If they are worried about what to do with 40 years of accumulated wealth you help them with what they take from their homes and in their senior community first. Then you can clean the house of their substance in excess. you can not do if they are still living in their new home. C is too traumatic for all. If you do not take care of us for the move yourself, hire someone to do on its own National Association of Professional Organizers, National Association NASMM or managers move for you. You can find a professional near to their national website.
The day of the big move, a suitcase and / or a banker’s box of your supervisor in preparing for the move. Mark be careful and responsible. It should include all essential documents, medicine, precious stones and other important document you can think of. The move is very worrying and fear for the elderly to lose important things is great. The elderly can fall into a state of panic when they can not find certain terms. Help them feel about To secure these things. Take them out of their home to arrive before the mover and not return to their new home until it was implemented openly and completely. I want to tell my customers that their parents as they were “like Star Trek beaming” in their new home feel, and he feels at home -.-made beds, food in the fridge, put everything away, installed cable TV, pictures on the walls, memorabilia issued

In their new community Senior will be watched your parents and treated around the clock, you can be sure they eat and drink – do many older people “forget” and ill tell you to make new friends and new people in their old stories… They can share their life experiences with their colleagues. you will be intellectually stimulated again, what to bring some of their lost cognitive abilities. They are encouraged to participate in the new world, and more importantly, they will be safe.

Once you have moved, you will feel better too! They are relieved they are safe and supervised. You know they are eating well and drinking fluids. They know that life is richer now with new friends and many expected activities. Enjoy your visit with them again and you have your own life back into the process.