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How should I handle this situation with b/f’s photos of ex?
Question : How should I handle this situation with b/f’s photos of ex?
By b/f and I have lived together for 2 years. A couple of months ago there were some photos in the visor of his car, so I looked at them. They were of his ex wife (camping, bikini shots, not too bad). I asked him about it. He said he was just moving them from his work to the house to put in the box downstairs. I thought, no big deal. But then I wondered what he did with them, and snooped…(I know dumb and insecure on my part).
They are in a container he keeps his bills in in his car. He takes this container with him everywhere (I gave him the stupid portable container!) It bugs me that he keeps them handy instead of filed away (like I do with photos of my ex).
Should I just let it go or let him know I looked and it bugs me?
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Best answer:
Answer by Adeline
Just say “I thought you were going to put those pictures in the box downstairs?”. Don’t be snooty about it though.
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#2 written by Elise 1 year ago
I have to agree with you. My husband and I have photo’s of our ex’s but they are stored away.
If the split from his ex was recent I could understand the need to keep them in the glove box or wherever . But its been 2 years. And why did he still have them in his office?
I dont think you are insecure . You had a very valid question and he lied about the answer. You need to talk to him . But I wouldn’t argue.
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#3 written by explorer 1 year ago
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#7 written by matilda.asks 1 year ago
Girl that would bug me too, especially since you gave him the container. But you also have to choose your battles and not let him know how much this is getting to you. Knowing me, I would give it a month or so and see if they’re still there and then bring it up. Tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask how he’d feel if you carried photos of your ex around in your purse.
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#8 written by gemki 1 year ago
I’d mention it as I’m sure he would feel the same……maybe he meant to put them away and just put them there for now. It will only play on your mind if you dont say something.
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http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100814072410AAT6FI9
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#9 written by Kristen Smith 1 year ago
This is a hard situation because you dont want to sound crazy if you say for him to get rid of the pictures but on the other hand you dont him to have the pictures. You have to find a way to confront him about the pictures that wouldnt make you sound like you are accusing him of doing anything wrong. Honestly if he has pictures of his ex wife.. handy on him all the time then this could be a problem so you must address it in a way that suits you and ur relationship.
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Well…I’m all for keeping photos of the past. They are part of your past. You don’t need to burn the photos of every person except your ‘current partner’.
Still..normal people keep them in photo albums or such. So it’s a bit odd he wants to carry them around.
It’s normal to look a old photos from time to time to relive memories…but to carry them around and look at them everyday?
Something is up with this guy……
You can tell him how you feel, but at best he will just hide the photos. It won’t change his behavior or actions..and something like this will come up again and again and again. If your fine with that, then by all means stay with him…..if not, move on.